Years ago I went on a cruise. There was a gaggle of really BIG black girls who lit up the entire boat with their smiles and fits of laughter. Just being near them made me smile! To add to the allure, these ladies wore two piece dresses, bikinis, and very teeny weeny THONGS! Yes, as the song goes...thong...th...th...th.thongs! I must admit, it wasn't a pretty sight... BUT I was intrigued by their confidence and obvious nonchalant issues with body image. Out of curiosity I took a peek at the topless deck one day and there was a HUGE black woman with breasts bigger than basketballs tanning topless with a thong and happy as a pig in shit. They simply loved life and savored each other's company. It was obvious they did not spend hours worrying abut the number on the scales or the size of their clothes. I must admit by the end of the week I wished I was one of those black girls.
I just got home from Cuba. I was amazed once again to see women in thong...th...th...th...thongs... who should NOT be. One large girl was wearing a string bikini that was reminscant of those tightly tied rump roasts. She didn't have a care in the world. But where did the line betwen beautiful confidence and vulgarity go? I began asking myself if I was the only one who thought such feats were extraordinary acts of courage? or insanity? I mean really...did I HAVE to be an involuntary voyeur to this woman's over-sized and unshaved 'courage'? Like a traffic accident I had to keep on looking...I guess beauty is in the eye of the beholder and i am going to have to deal with it.
"Reality is always controlled by the people who are most insane."
Oh Lynn..... at this time i must admit, it is the Gift inside, not the wrapping. I am 43 years of age, weighing in at 230, a little short for my weight... But damn ya Im sexy ! Better yet, i feel it !
ReplyDeleteYou are the sexiest chick I have ever met! I am just not a BIG fan of hairy stranger gunt. LOL!
ReplyDeleteOhh, I wish I could be one of those extraordinary, confident, big black women!! I too, have longed for the desire to be THAT confident about my own self image. I have DEFINETLY not gotten there. Struggling with my weight all my life, and poor self image certainly hasn't helped. I long to one day feel "confident" enough to say "ya, I'm sexy" lol. People tell me I'm beautiful, and as you said beauty is in the eye of the beholder...well damn!! Why do my "eye's" have to be wearing eye patches? lol
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