Girlfriends are Like a Bouquet of Flowers

When I got married I gave a speech explaining how my life is like my bouquet of flowers. I said " Forrest Gump once said that life is like a box of chocolates. I would like to compare my life to my beautiful bouquet of flowers. Each friend that has come into my life represents a flower in my bouquet. Each friend adds their unique personality and color which blends together to form this beautiful bouquet I call my life."

When I left the hospital to pursue my dream of becoming a business woman I was thrilled to walk out and never look back. Over the next 3 years my physical and emotional health deteriorated as I worked day in and day out on the laptop writing courses and building the business. In 3 short years, I gained 60 pounds, my complexion rotted and turned gray, and I basically lived life at a dizzying pace....I also lost my focus and purpose...ignored and back benched the people who gave me a purpose in life.

Working at home sounds amazing....but it isn't. I was too busy to notice life going by. It was as if 3 years simply disappeared and one day I woke up feeling profoundly lonely. When I walked out of the hospital...I left my community...I walked away from friends who I shared my last 15 years of life with...I walked out on the audience who listened to my crazy stories and adventures....people who inspired me and supported me when times were tough. Despite walking out on them...with no intention of ever looking back...there they were...waiting with open arms for my return...again we just fell into place as if we never lost a day.

Every time the phone would ring I felt it was a nuisance and an intrusion on my life. I was angry that people wouldn't leave me alone when I had so much to get done. Slowly, over time...I realized that I was never going to be done. There will always be deadlines to meet and stuff to be done. Thankfully, my friends never gave up on me.

I have a life long friend visiting with me this week. Despite living far away, it is like we are never apart. It is so fabulous to be able to simply sit around and be comfortable...no uncomfortable pauses...no rush to be somewhere or pressure to be anyone else but me. It doesn't matter how many months have passed or what is going on in our lives....when we get together it is like 2 puzzle pieces that fit perfectly together. We are automatically in sync... we start out with a big hug and then flop into the couch and share, sit, eat, whatever...just a blissful glow of energy as life goes on around us...like there hasn't been a geographical interruption.

This can also be said of friends gone by who have wandered back into my life by chance. I have a girlfriend where 2 years can go by...where we do not see each other, and we simply fall into place...in sync...like 2 puzzle pieces that belong together. We always have lots of fun! One night, she invited an old friend from high school over for an exquisite meal,evening of drinks and laughter on her deck. It was so cool because I had been thinking about this gal all day...and kaboom....there she was....invited by my friend...out of the blue....meant to be...miles apart but on the exact same wave length. On this night, we shared our goals and ideas, and subsequently inspired each other to follow our dreams. As cheesy as it sounds it truly was an amazing night under the stars. It was on this night...my blog was born!

Another consequential friend worked with me at the hospital for 15 years. We were simply acquaintances....said hello politely and enjoyed some simple chat. A year after she moved away, we connected online. We started writing to each other on a regular basis...sharing our dreams and disappointments in life....again...a judgment free forum to write our hearts out....and just be. In a short time, she has become such an important part of my life.

I am so blessed! I have other friends that come and go....move away but never leave me. My running buddy...someone I met at the back of the pack attempting to run... dared to move away on me (her husband was transferred). I have told her many times this should have been run by me first...because it turned my life upside down!I recently had lunch with her in her new town...again....time has passed...but we instantly connect like puzzle pieces and lapse back in time as if we saw each other yesterday. I miss her...but we always fall perfectly into that puzzle... as if there hasn't been a break at all.

You NEED girlfriends to survive... and thrive....to breathe...to be. A person is only complete when she has a true friend to understand her, to share all her passions and sorrows with, and to stand by her throughout her life. As I go through my life... these gorgeous, bright and inspirational flowers fall into this amazing bouquet of flowers I call my life. Friends add the color to your world!


"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born."- Anais Nin

Lynn
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